DAY 7
Joseph, the Earthly Father of Jesus
To understand Joseph’s perspective of the Christmas narrative, we need to understand the customs
surrounding betrothals/marriages of the time. In biblical times, people were married in their early
youth, and marriages were usually contracted within the narrow circle of the clan and the family.
Interpreting their “betrothal” as a modern-day “engagement” would be wrong. The Jewish custom in
that time period involved a two-stage marriage: first, a legal contract of marriage, followed later by a
party with the husband taking his wife into his home. This is shown in the Gospels: Joseph learned
that Mary was expecting before she came to live with him so he planned to divorce her, but an angel
instructed him not to; instead, he should take Mary into his home. Therefore, Joseph was already
Mary’s legal husband at the time Jesus was conceived.
We don’t know how Joseph discovered that Mary was pregnant. Luke doesn’t even reference that
and Matthew simply says, “she was found to be pregnant.” Stop and think for a moment, she was
found. “Hey Joseph, have you seen Mary since she got back from visiting Elizabeth?” She was
found...I’ll bet she was. Kind of hard to hide that fact.
Joseph didn’t yet have the advantage of hearing from an angel, he just had Mary telling him what she
believed. He didn’t know what to think. He probably didn’t really know Mary very well either; the
custom at that time was that in the year between the betrothal and marriage the couple rarely saw
each other. He no doubt felt betrayed, alone, even stuck. The breaking of a betrothal like this was
worse than breaking a business contract. Yet that’s what Joseph considered doing. He trusted Mary
to be faithful and devout; he had pledged his life to her. And yet, it seemed, she had betrayed him.
We don’t know how long Joseph was tormented with these thoughts; Scripture doesn’t tell us how
long it was before the angel Gabriel appeared to Joseph to tell him the baby was God’s son. But we
do know that once he did, Joseph obeyed.
Like Mary, Joseph signed up for a lot of pain and heartache when he said Yes to God. This was no
easy assignment. In marrying Mary, he would be subject to endless scrutiny. In listening to the voice
of God, Joseph was giving up his reputation. In his book, Hidden Christmas, the Surprising Truth
Behind the Birth of Christ, Tim Keller describes it this way:
Everybody in that shame and honor society will know that this child was not born nine or ten
months after they got married; they will know she was already pregnant. That would mean
either Joseph and Mary had sex before marriage or she was unfaithful to him, and as a result,
they are going to be shamed, socially excluded, and rejected. They are going to be
second-class citizens.
It’s easy to glance over this and not give it another thought as you read this part of the Christmas
story. But stop and consider how significant this decision was.
Mary and Joseph had to work together to move forward. They likely had several conversations about
what had happened to them. They were no doubt anxious and uncertain about what the future would
hold.
Joseph provided for his family as a carpenter and followed God’s instructions to care for them. He
named and circumcised his son, presented Him at the Temple in Jerusalem (Luke 2:22), and took
Him to the Temple on holy days when possible, all in line with Jewish law. Joseph also protected
Jesus from Herod (Matthew 2:13-15), the King of Judea who wanted to kill the child, by taking Mary
and Jesus to safety in Egypt and then Nazareth. He was true to his calling and to his family.
Although he’s not mentioned very often in Scripture, Joseph is an important role model of fatherhood
and faith, truly an unsung hero of the Christmas story.
Look Up – Connect with God
Read: Matthew 1:18-24
Key Verse: “When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he
took his wife, but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.”
(Matthew 1:24-25)
Pray: Lord, thank you for Joseph and his integrity. Thank you for working through ordinary people
who don’t look for fame or glory but look out for the best interests of those around them. Help me to
be more like that, to be faithful to you and walk with integrity, always doing the right thing even when it
means I’ll personally suffer.
Look In – Family Memories
Discuss: Mary and Joseph’s life, particularly in the early years, was rough and full of challenges.
Give your kids a Rocky Road candy bar and talk about the difficulties Mary and Joseph may have
encountered on their way to Bethlehem, their first few years, their trek to Egypt and back to avoid
persecution and death. Talk about sacrifices you’ve made that were for the benefit of the family and
how you feel about those choices.
Look Out – Connect with Others
Look through old toys or books or clothes that you could part with and donate them to a worthy cause
in your community. Help your family learn the benefit of sacrificing personal desires to help others.
surrounding betrothals/marriages of the time. In biblical times, people were married in their early
youth, and marriages were usually contracted within the narrow circle of the clan and the family.
Interpreting their “betrothal” as a modern-day “engagement” would be wrong. The Jewish custom in
that time period involved a two-stage marriage: first, a legal contract of marriage, followed later by a
party with the husband taking his wife into his home. This is shown in the Gospels: Joseph learned
that Mary was expecting before she came to live with him so he planned to divorce her, but an angel
instructed him not to; instead, he should take Mary into his home. Therefore, Joseph was already
Mary’s legal husband at the time Jesus was conceived.
We don’t know how Joseph discovered that Mary was pregnant. Luke doesn’t even reference that
and Matthew simply says, “she was found to be pregnant.” Stop and think for a moment, she was
found. “Hey Joseph, have you seen Mary since she got back from visiting Elizabeth?” She was
found...I’ll bet she was. Kind of hard to hide that fact.
Joseph didn’t yet have the advantage of hearing from an angel, he just had Mary telling him what she
believed. He didn’t know what to think. He probably didn’t really know Mary very well either; the
custom at that time was that in the year between the betrothal and marriage the couple rarely saw
each other. He no doubt felt betrayed, alone, even stuck. The breaking of a betrothal like this was
worse than breaking a business contract. Yet that’s what Joseph considered doing. He trusted Mary
to be faithful and devout; he had pledged his life to her. And yet, it seemed, she had betrayed him.
We don’t know how long Joseph was tormented with these thoughts; Scripture doesn’t tell us how
long it was before the angel Gabriel appeared to Joseph to tell him the baby was God’s son. But we
do know that once he did, Joseph obeyed.
Like Mary, Joseph signed up for a lot of pain and heartache when he said Yes to God. This was no
easy assignment. In marrying Mary, he would be subject to endless scrutiny. In listening to the voice
of God, Joseph was giving up his reputation. In his book, Hidden Christmas, the Surprising Truth
Behind the Birth of Christ, Tim Keller describes it this way:
Everybody in that shame and honor society will know that this child was not born nine or ten
months after they got married; they will know she was already pregnant. That would mean
either Joseph and Mary had sex before marriage or she was unfaithful to him, and as a result,
they are going to be shamed, socially excluded, and rejected. They are going to be
second-class citizens.
It’s easy to glance over this and not give it another thought as you read this part of the Christmas
story. But stop and consider how significant this decision was.
Mary and Joseph had to work together to move forward. They likely had several conversations about
what had happened to them. They were no doubt anxious and uncertain about what the future would
hold.
Joseph provided for his family as a carpenter and followed God’s instructions to care for them. He
named and circumcised his son, presented Him at the Temple in Jerusalem (Luke 2:22), and took
Him to the Temple on holy days when possible, all in line with Jewish law. Joseph also protected
Jesus from Herod (Matthew 2:13-15), the King of Judea who wanted to kill the child, by taking Mary
and Jesus to safety in Egypt and then Nazareth. He was true to his calling and to his family.
Although he’s not mentioned very often in Scripture, Joseph is an important role model of fatherhood
and faith, truly an unsung hero of the Christmas story.
Look Up – Connect with God
Read: Matthew 1:18-24
Key Verse: “When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he
took his wife, but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.”
(Matthew 1:24-25)
Pray: Lord, thank you for Joseph and his integrity. Thank you for working through ordinary people
who don’t look for fame or glory but look out for the best interests of those around them. Help me to
be more like that, to be faithful to you and walk with integrity, always doing the right thing even when it
means I’ll personally suffer.
Look In – Family Memories
Discuss: Mary and Joseph’s life, particularly in the early years, was rough and full of challenges.
Give your kids a Rocky Road candy bar and talk about the difficulties Mary and Joseph may have
encountered on their way to Bethlehem, their first few years, their trek to Egypt and back to avoid
persecution and death. Talk about sacrifices you’ve made that were for the benefit of the family and
how you feel about those choices.
Look Out – Connect with Others
Look through old toys or books or clothes that you could part with and donate them to a worthy cause
in your community. Help your family learn the benefit of sacrificing personal desires to help others.